I remember reading about the famous model turned actor Milind Soman marrying Ankita Konwar who is 21 years younger than him. A lot of people said a lot of things due to the age gap between the two. Though marriage with an age gap between celebrities is not unheard of, various other famous couples like Sachin Tendulkar and Anjali Tendulkar, Saif Ali Khan and Kareena Kapoor. Even the veteran actors like Dilip Kumar and Saira Banu, Rajesh Khanna and Dimple Kapadia have been married despite the age difference.
The basis of any relationship is mutual respect and love, this rule applies for all relationships be it Parents and children, siblings, friends, or co-workers but when it comes to marriage there is a whole lot of restrictions applied, there is scrutiny over the slightest bit of details and background checks for grooms and brides and why not this bond is for two people who are going to spend their lives together as partners.
Though In India, for decades the marriages are arranged by parents, which is widely accepted and common practice.
In some marriages, the age difference is not much but in some, it goes up to 10 years or above, and since it’s not a very common some are frowned upon. But do these differences actually matter? What has age got to do with love? You cannot tell your heart to love someone or not to love someone, it’s a decision your heart makes for you, the chemistry, the bond, the compassion, the comfort, the trust it has on some other person, can it be shut down because of the age difference?
Some claim, due to a big age gap there are higher chances of divorce or the marriage ending poorly, yet doesn’t this apply in all relationships? Any bond can grow to weaken over the years if either of the partners is not giving their best or are not truthful.
Love is truly becoming a rare commodity, the world is going forward, everyone is in the race of being on the top, amidst this race if one finds true love in someone who is not of the same age or is questionably elder or younger, is it right to let them go? Is it not incorrect to just let it pass by because people will talk about it?
We are progressing towards a better world, children are growing up in a digital world, they have far more exposure to the world than we ever had when we were young. As we are opening ourselves to new technologies, why not try and open ourselves to more chances of love and hope.
Its time we keep aside our preconceived notions, let go of ages-old bias and give love another chance. Things like age difference are too little to let a happy life be sacrificed upon.
What are your thoughts? Do let me know
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